You can tell who's actually the baddie by determining whether the violence would stop if one side were to unilaterally stop attacking. If extremist Palestinians were to stop attacking Israel, all the violence would stop; therefore, extremist Palestinians are the baddies. No matter how much Israel tries to de-escalate by, for example, pulling out of Gaza in 2005 and dismantling its settlements there and repeatedly offering to recognize a Palestinians state encompassing almost 100% of the West Bank, the violence won't stop, because extremist Palestinians keep on starting the violence.